Disclaimer – I’m not a Hater

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the godless side / the post-God side

I use this blog as an outlet for reflecting on passions, angers, enlightenments that I wouldn’t be able to share anywhere else.  Because of that, the personality of Teal is isn’t a complete representation of who I am in real life.

I want to remind you (especially a very select real-life friends of mine who have access to this site, and of those, especially the ones that are Christian), that I am not a bitter, saddened, hurt individual that hates Christians and the Christian church.  There are things that make me incredibly upset, things that now being removed enough from the situation that I am becoming more and more aware of — like scales falling from my eyes over time — but that doesn’t mean that these intense moments are characteristic of my life.

I have a dear Christian friend that I see only every few years.  She hadn’t seen me face to face since my becoming a-theist but had read my blog until a couple weeks ago when we shared lunch together.  She explained how relieved she was to find that I was okay and also confided how intimidating the posts on tealtomato can be.  I realized then that this post needed to be said.

For those of you who do know me but, because of life events, don’t get a chance to talk to me much — I am okay.  I’m more than okay.  As much as I stand by the posts I write here, I also stand by so many other things in my life — like laughter, joy, acceptance, creativity, mindfulness, my family, my work, having fun, savoring each moment in life.  Perhaps I’ll write more lower-key posts from time to time.  But if I don’t, I am always, ALWAYS open to communication.   You can always ask me questions and I will do the same.  We can converse.  Dialogue.  Grow together.

But I also think it’s healthy to express how we truly feel, hence the creation of tealtomato over 2  years ago.  I will continue to be brutally honest here because I need to, desperately.  But I can also promise that honesty in our relationships and hope the same from you.




The Author

I'm a closet atheist christian missionary. Paradigm shifts happen frequently for those who allow themselves to think critically about currently held beliefs and openly about new ones. I’ve developed the skill, or perhaps addiction, for change but the community around me is slow to catch up -- and would damn me if they knew where I stood.


  1. Carmen says

    It has been my observation that, for those who have been heavily indoctrinated, it’s like ‘coming up for air’ after escaping the clutches of religion. People report that they feel free to think clearly and concisely after they realize the nonsense they’ve been fed over the years is all based on a lie.
    Quite frankly, there are atheists who are angry at the pernicious effects of religion, as well they should be. Greta Christina has a talk on this topic on YouTube if you want to check her out. 🙂

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    • Oh I can definitely relate to the feeling of coming up for air. It happened slowly, though, as I found myself in a sort of grieving process for a bit after coming out of religion.

      And I definitely am angry, I didn’t mean to imply I wasn’t. I think many of my posts convey that, hence my felt need to write this one to try to help balance it a bit. This one https://tealtomato.com/2016/05/05/christianity-is-evil-get-it-out/ for instance is pretty brutal. Thanks for the recommendation, I’ll check Greta out!


      • Carmen says

        Be prepared for some ‘f’ bombs. .. 🙂

        Read through the link; yes, you are definitely of the same mind as most of the other ‘deconverted’ .. . it’s maddening to have to admit we’ve been duped by the greatest lie ever told. 😦


  2. Carmen says

    I read through the link you included in your response. It reminded me of this video:

    (Religion is a Bad Lover)


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