Needing to be Facebook official for anything may seem incredibly cliche, shallow, or cheesy, but there is a great reality to it. Facebook (and similar social media) exposes oneself to the scrutiny of any and all without ceasing. There is no privacy (duh). And unlike anything in the real world, there is no correcting miscommunication, for those that saw your original something may not be those that see a corrected something. One has to be absolutely sure and completely intentional about everything posted on his/her page.
I was terrified to be in a relationship when my husband and I started dating. It is for this very reason that I dumped him, hard, only 2 days after we were (to each other) “official.” After 3 days of zero communication and a month of being a jerk to him, I finally dropped the shackles of my past abusive relationships and fell in love with him. And yet… it took me a few weeks before changing my relationship status on Facebook. And when I did…. I shook in fear.
For almost 4 years, my “Religious Views” on Facebook were the following: (yeah, just saying “Christian” or “believer in Christ” was way to conventional for me. I had to stand out):
Religion? Naw. this ain’t a set of beliefs I practice in order to alleviate pain or make myself feel better (or worse) about my life. this….this IS Life. It’s like staring in front of a mural someone painted of a butterfly, sitting there for years with a pad and pencil trying to sketch myself a copy…versus throwing the sketch pad on the ground and shouting “I give up! take everything, I can’t draw anyway!” and then at that beautiful moment of surrender finding myself wearing the marvelous set of wings–and hearing the still, small voice whisper, “come fly with Me.” that voice is Him. the One. the fullness of Life. Truth. Love. Justice. Peace. Joy. Fire. Freedom. Wholeness. His name is Y’HW’H. Jesus Christ. ..my Everything.
Last night I became Facebook officially not a blatant Christian. Now my religious views just say the following:
Granted, that’s not clearly stating my disbelief. And plenty of Christians in my life would still agree with that belief. But I say “freedom” instead of “agnostic/atheist” because I don’t necessarily want to be known for that in which I don’t believe (God, Zeus, Norse gods, Reincarnation, unicorns, Santa Claus), but for that in which I do.
Now, this isn’t entirely authentic, because I am totally for saying “Free Thinker” (which is actually one of the Facebook options), but I just don’t quite have that courage yet. Someday. And soon.